We have three types of friends in a life: friends for a reason, friends for a season and friends for a lifetime. Some of those friends teach us great life lessons. They show us what we want and need in a friendship. They can also show us exactly what we don’t want or need.
It’s probably safe to say we have all experienced all three of those at some point in our lives. Some can have us scratching our heads and wondering why that even happened. You know what I’m talking about. The friends that have come in and out of your life so quickly you’re sitting there asking yourself why?? You’ve built trust with the person and enjoyed their company and then one day it all just stops. There’s no explanation, no goodbye- no reason. It just fizzles out. You’re sometimes left feeling hurt, lost, confused and taken advantage of. That’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes. There might not ever be any closure. Sometimes when a friendship just stops it can feel like you’ve broken up with a person. In some ways you have. You’re left with the just the memories of what once was. You go through all the same stages of a break up- hurt, confusion, anger and eventually peace. It’s hard but sometimes we need to learn to not take anything personally. Most the time people are just projecting their own reality onto others. As they say when one door closes another one soon opens.
You’re not always going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Hey- that’s okay I really don’t like tea myself. Haters are gonna hate regardless of what you do or say. I have a whole “fan club” of those so-called haters! Hey there- hey!!!! Did it used to bother me- yes! Did it used to drive me crazy- yes! Do I give a shit now- nope! Life is too short especially for nonsense. It serves nobody any good to waste one’s energy on people that just don’t understand you. It’s taken MANY years and LOTS of tears and frustration to learn and understand that lesson. Sometimes one might still have moments where it does bother them and that’s okay. We’re only human. Just don’t take up residence in that space for too long. Have your pity party and then move on!
When we do find and have those lifetime friends- they are the true gems. They are rare and definitely hard to come by. If we can have one true blue friend in our lifetime we are lucky! Those friends are the real MVP’s. They show up and stay in your life through it all. They see the true you and still choose to continue to stay. They see your true beauty even when that nasty side of ourselves rears it’s ugly head. They have our backs like no other. They’re the type of friend where you could call on them day or night and know they would be there in heartbeat!
They are the friends where you could be doing nothing at all with except just being in one another’s presence and that’s all that is needed. They are the ones that have you laughing so hard you have most definitely peed your pants! You’re laughing so hard you can’t even breathe! You have your own language and inside jokes to last a lifetime. You can have an entire conversation with just an exchange of looks between one another and you’ll know EXACTLY what the other is thinking! Time and distance do not matter with these group of friends. You can go days, weeks and sometimes even months without talking to one another. Then when you get the chance to catch up it’s as if not time has lapsed at all. Those are your TRUE friends. They stick it out with you in the rough patches and dry spells that all friends go through. They understand life happens, there are other obligations and directions keep you in different places at the time. None of that matters because at the end of the day you know that person loves and cares about you no matter what.
It’s important to focus on the people that love you- flaws and all! They see your unique qualities and love you unconditionally. You’re a BADASS- don’t forget that! Remember friends “seas” the moment!
~XO
Michele
Seas the Moment 